I just found out that even if you’re really good at something, you don’t have to do that thing.
You don’t have to use that goodness to help the neighborhood association or solve someone else’s problem at work or fix a global issue or make something better at your kid’s school. And you don’t have to make it part of your career, either.
Even if you’re really, really good it.
You can be a kick-ass public speaker and still design a life in which you never speak in a group that wouldn’t fit around your kitchen table.
You can be a total superstar with statistical analysis and probability distribution and still design a life that doesn’t require you to do either of those things.
You can be the single best tennis player in your neighborhood, in your city, in your state, and decide that you’re not going to include tennis in your life from now on, and THAT IS OKAY.
If you want to do the things you’re good at, then of course you can, but you don’t have to.
Is that as shocking to you as it is to me?
Am I the last one to know?
I am not kidding when I say this is news to me: Unless you are really good at CPR and you are strolling by someone who needs CPR or your particular skill is absolutely the only way you can earn money to feed and clothe your children at this time in your life, being good at something does not automatically make it a moral necessity.
Whenever I’m embarrassed about a realization like this, I feel like a fool pressing publish. But those are almost always the times when I find out that I am not alone. So here goes.