she is enough

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today they celebrate a six-year-old

 

she's been saying she's six for weeks now

because she was after all very close

feeling so much more like six in her heart than

five

 

the mother cannot disagree with her

suddenly

she has a wiggly bottom tooth

suddenly

she is reading a book all on her own before breakfast

suddenly

she can do a flip on the high bar, brush her own hair, have complex friendships the mother doesn't fully understand

 

for her

the letting go comes easy right now

 

for the mothers

for the fathers

mmm

we the mothers and the fathers

we

remember

when that wiggly bottom tooth first poked through those little gums

and

we

want

to always read out loud together because that is our special thing that's what replaced the nursing after all

and

we

are in

uncharted waters listening to friendship triumphs and woes that feel like they're happening right inside our own hearts

 

we

the mothers and the fathers

we are careful

not

to say these things out loud

we do not say 

no! stay five forever

we do not say

stop! that growing up so fast

we do not say

whatamigonnado! my baby's not a baby anymore

 

even though

in moments

the letting go is not so easy for us

 

we

we cheer her on

we celebrate six

we share her joy

because 

 

we

i

want this girl to know that

whatever she is

or isn't

wherever she goes

or doesn't

however she changes grows screws up discovers rejects finds joy finds

and loses and finds

her way

she is

loved

and right where she is

wherever that is

she is

enough

. . .

Dear one,

If you are working to let go of what has come before so that you can stay present with wherever your child, your partner, your parent is right now, please know: you are are not alone.

With love from Cheryl